issues...

[Tora]

hello....lately i have been having some issues with some of my friends. See the two of them have been friends with each other WAY long before i knew them. I often feel like the outcast hanging out with them...and i really feel like i kinda [for lack of better terminology] butted in on their friendship...now they are wondering why i dont really talk to them anymore or hang out with them. i told them how i felt and they just [idk] denied everything i said. but i still cant shake the feeling. i need help

[Judi]

Yes that is a tough one, but if you have already spoken to them and they said you being one of them is not a problem, maybe you have to dig a little deeper and find a place within yourself that feels alone, sometimes things we feel can alienate us from those around us, with out evening knowing we are doing it. First rule of thumb is before anyone else can like us or respect us we have to feel that way about ourselves. Try to take steps in stride and work with trying to think positive I know it will all work out for you.

[Tora]

thank u very much Judi!
that really put things in perspective

[Fairskinnedgoddess]

I hope this helps alittle.
I know it's hard to come into a relationship where the other two people have known each other longer....sometimes when you say things it will feel like they are teaming up against you because they are used to being friends and agreeing with one another.

If you want to continue to be friends with them, just stand up for yourself when something hurts or bothers you. If they are your friends, they will understand and either do something to rectify the problem, or they will not...and, you were just not a good match as friends to begin with.

My son is going through this same thing since he will be in the junior high system next year......I see how much it bothers him...and, I know it bothers you too.

I hope it works out positively for you regardless of what happens!!!

[Tora]

thank you
just going into 8th grade myself
[i think the schoolwork isnt whats hard on kids, its the social factor]
and yeah im pretty sure they would understand

thank you^^

[Fairskinnedgoddess]

I agree with the social aspect being very tough!!
My son will only be in the 5th grade (which is way early to be going to school at the jr. high..in my opinion) lol ... he really tries hard to fit in.
I thought I had been through some hard things in my life...but, I have never felt anything as heartbreaking as hearing him tell me someone has said something mean to him or something. I think it hurts me more than him. lol

Good luck on things with your friends!!

[Tora]

thank you!
yeah socially a lot of people didnt like me and it took me a while to figure out
its was simply because i looked different
i was very nice to everyone, especially my teachers
but yeah 5th grade is way too early in my opinion
in Alaska theres only 7-8 Jr. High's
except they just built a new one which is 6-8
but anyways thank you once again!